UNDERSTANDING AND TREATING
YOUR MOST DIFFICULT COUPLES:
What the latest neuroscience has to offer
regarding couples therapy
Presented by Francine Laipdes, LMFT
Sunday, October 15, 2017
Registration: 9:30 AM, Workshop: 10 AM - 2:30 PM
Gronowski Clinic, Building C (15 A) Los Altos, CA
(4 CE units)
Babies leave their mother’s bodies way before their nervous systems have matured, so whatever is happening socially is being deeply “wired in.” This neural immaturity at birth makes our first attachment relationships critical to developing regulatory circuitry that allows them to activate when stressed or threatened, then calm once again when safety is restored, (Schore, 1994). In adulthood, this regulatory circuitry allows individuals to both regulate themselves, and to co-regulate with romantic partners during moments of external, internal and interpersonal stress, allowing them to create and maintain safe, stable and intimate relationships. Many of our clinical couples, however, lack these regulatory capacities.
When these couples arrive in therapy they most predictably attribute their distress to the need to “learn better communication skills.” After decades of working with couples, I now hear this as “problems with emotional reactivity”. Many of these clients grew up the recipients of early trauma, abuse or neglect, and have had to learn to protect themselves any way their nervous systems, could figure out. Many of the defenses they have learned are governed, not by thought or decision (higher centers in the brain), but by their autonomic nervous system (ANS) with its powerful propensity for “fight or flight, freeze, comply or collapse” They often erupt too frequently or shut down and pull away, refusing to talk once conflict erupts; or, more proactively, pseudo-comply or flee avoiding even the first signs of conflict that threaten to destabilize.
In this workshop with Francine Lapides, LMFT, we’ll examine what the latest research on the brain says about treating these couples and what skills and methods of treatment are most likely to work. We’ll also look at the importance of our own abilities as therapists to regulate during extremes of high or low client energy. You’re invited to arrive with a problem couple or two of your own in your mind to enliven our conversation.
Francine Lapides has been a licensed MFT since 1974, was a supervising therapist through the 1970’s, and has been in private practice in San Jose and Santa Cruz, California since 1980. She has trained extensively with Daniel Siegel, is a 12-year member of Allan Schore's Berkeley study group, and has been strongly influenced by relational principles developed at The Stone Center at Wellesley College.
She is a founding member of the Santa Cruz Society for Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy (SCPPS), teaches at workshops and conferences across the US, and is a repeat presenter at the Cape Cod Institute and at the New York City Affect Regulation Conference. Francine has online seminars entitled: Keeping the Brain in Mind and Healing the Heart and the Brain.
For more information Francine can be contacted at FrancineLapides@aol.com.
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Those who attend the workshop and complete the CPA evaluation form will receive 4 continuing education credits (if the course is approved.) Please note that APA CE rules require that we only give credit to those who attend the entire workshop. Those arriving more than 15 minutes after the start time or leaving before the workshop is completed will not receive CE credits.